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My roommate has been missing for over a month, and I finally have reached the "seriously worried" point. I was trying not to panic, as I usually overreact, but last night there was a note on our bulletin board from a friend of his saying "I have his car. He does not reply to my e-mails. I am worried. Have you seen him?"
I feel like a huge ass, because I remember the first night he didn't come home, and thought "that's odd." He came home late, but he always came home. Then I forgot all about it, thinking about my life, and it took me a month to realize "wait a minute..." - Lo
Joe, that's the last recourse. There are so many sketchy things about this note, like how his "friend" only left an e-mail, and apparently just walked into our house when no one was home. And it seems hard to believe that no one at his work, family, etc would have noticed by now if something bad happened to him. - Lo
Right now I have my investigatively-skilled dad looking into the matter, and an e-mail out to his advisor. Hopefully he checks it even over winter break. We figured he just went home to India, but loaning out his car & not getting it back made things 1000 times more fishy. - Lo
I'm hoping the university has emergency contact info. We know like nothing about him, none of us has his phone number. I had to google just to get his e-mail. The thing is, in our house we don't really talk to each other much, so it didn't raise immediate alarms. On a related note, I'm *really* glad there are other people who would notice if I went missing, because apparently my roommates wouldn't. - Lo
Oh, they are. The thing is, red flags are ALWAYS going off in my mind, so I've been trying not to overreact. This happened once before, I hadn't seen another roomie in like two weeks, and was all "what if he's dead in his room?" Turned out he was home, just not talking to us. But all this time, I thought this guy had his car with him. Now I am definitely freaked out. - Lo
I am actually willing to go to the police if there are no developments in the next couple days, which indicates how worried I am - I hate hate hate hate cops and would never normally choose to talk to them on purpose. - Lo
not all cops are bad, but way too many of them are. - Big Joe Silenced
Nope, I don't think all cops are bad, but some experiences with those that were has left me very shy of them all. It's a shame that the bad apples give the nice ones a bad rep. - Lo
I remember when I went to FF for support. I dunno what happened, but apparently those days are gone. Sad :( - Lo
:( Thinking good thoughts for him and for all of you, Lo. - LB ❤s FF, esp. YOU
I hope you find out something solidly good soon, Lo, and sorry you feel ppl here aren't being supportive. - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
I hope your dad finds something. - Yolanda
Yes, I hope you find out some info soon too and that everything is ok! - Lindsay
Thanks, ya'll. - Lo
:( Hope everything is fine and someone knows what's going on. Don't feel bad for not worrying about him sooner, there are other people who also could have looked into it. - Heather
:-( - John (bird whisperer)
Oh no! This sounds scary. And, what WOH said about people here and feeling supported. I do know that a lot of people are on vacation right now, some are traveling, etc., so there might not be as many of us online right now. Regardless, I hope you hear some good news soon! - Katy S
Thanks Katy. Specifically I was referring to a rather harsh DM I got almost instantly, but then the positive brigade showed up. For a minute, I was worried... like where'd the FF love go? I'm still trying to get more info... it seems impossible that he really could have just vanished and NOBODY noticed until now, so presumably someone knows what's up. I just have to find 'em, and we're working on it. - Lo
Who the hell DMed you? That's really, incredibly uncool. BE NICE TO LO, MEAN PERSON! - Heather
It's in the past now. Apparently the CoDA is working, first time I ever blocked someone and I didn't think twice. - Lo
Good news, he turned up. Apparently in India and without internet access. - Lo
Wow, that was fast! That's great news. He's OK and you can stop worrying. Win-Win! - Jeff P. Henderson
Well, I worried for a long time before it reached the "post about it to FF" point. Turns out he left a note when he left, but somehow it got lost. I blame mega-unreliable-roomie. - Lo
I once had a roommate who disappeared to France for two months and left us with a $900 phone bill from 976/900 number calls he made. When he came back, he stayed with his parents for another few weeks and didn't tell us. - Andy Bakun
Damn, Andy. That makes me glad we don't have a phone. Or internet. Actually, I'm surprised the power is always on. - Lo
This was back when we were poor-student enough such that it only made sense to have a single land-line in the house. It seems odd to think back about how paranoid we were about losing phone connectivity via a land-line. Of course, back then, it was my only connection to the (pre-www) Internet (yes, we capitalized Internet back then), so maybe that was it. I had a lot of MUDing to do. Today, I'd be more pissed about a $900 phone bill than about how it would get paid, but then, my Internet connectivity isn't by phone line anymore, and everyone in this house (other than the baby, I guess) has a cell phone they're responsible for. - Andy Bakun