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People That Inspire / thank you post secret. i am not any less of a good person either. - http://pinterest.com/pin...
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Seriously. - Heather
Actually in this over populated world, it makes the person who thinks WHY before produce their offsprings are much more human and better people, well at least in my point of view. - Nemo
Amen to that. I know I wouldn't make a good parent so my decision not to be one is the best decision for me. It means I care enough about kids not to give them less than the loving attentive nurturing they deserve. - Spidra Webster
It also doesn't mean that I don't like kids, or treasure the ones that my family and friends have had with all my heart <3 - Jennifer Dittrich
Nemo, neither is more human or "better". They're just different. - Melly #FForever
Touche, Heather. I have a great deal of respect for anyone who lives their life the way they want rather than bow to some kind of social expectation. - Melly #FForever
Mellyboo, if someone thinks about the consequences of the decision is going to make is both more human AND "better" person than someone who just wants to fulfil their ego and desire. - Nemo
Yes, but the same should go for those who think WHY they're not producing offspring, too ;o) - Melly #FForever
This is what exactly happens to many parents, watch 2:07 in this http://ff.im/QwxR6 - Nemo
not producing offspring, because the world is OVER-POPULATED!!! - Nemo
Nemo: one might argue the world is overpopulated, but because population is not evenly distributed there are regions facing underpopulation issues. There is a chance that the US and parts of Europe will be facing those issues in the near future. One might argue that the existing populations in places like China and India should just move in to fill the population gaps in the West, but that's not really practical, either. - Bren
Places like China and India must learn how to use the contraception. It just shows the lack of education and awareness. And 7 billion people on earth is too much does not matter how they are distributed. - Nemo
Okay, Nemo. You're right. I'm a horrible person for having two children and adding to the overpopulation of the earth. I obviously didn't think about my decision properly, because if I had, I would have chosen not to have children and contribute to such a hideous problem. I am ignorant, uneducated, selfish, etc etc etc, blah blah blah, I've heard it all before. - Melly #FForever
PS. You do realise China has a one-child policy in place and has for some time, right? - Melly #FForever
Nemo: to say it doesn't matter how the population is distributed is to expose a real lack of understanding of population dynamics. - Bren
Mellyboo, I have never said those who have children are horrible!!!! you want to take it personally that's your call not mine. As for China, one child policy is the most ridiculous policy ever, their government should focus on educating people on why and how, instead of treating the people like sheep. After all one child policy was not successful. - Nemo
Why do you assume the people need educating? - Melly #FForever
Bren, it matters if you think about the balance between ethnicities and not the total number of individuals. I don't agree with migrating people to distribute the population evenly! but I don't agree with the idea that because one part of the world is doing wrong we have to follow them to compensate! one educated well pampered, properly trained child in good health is much better than hundreds of uneducated, full of complexity and in poor health kids - Nemo
Oh my. - Melly #FForever
*backs away from the computer* - Melly #FForever
I have to admit, this took off in a slightly different way then I was expecting. Overpopulation is one of the reasons I don't want to have biological kids, but I would never say someone having children is somehow not as good as me. I know I'm the one missing the thing in my brain telling me to reproduce, I'm the mutant. I'm a big fan of VHEMT.org and I think it pretty well lines up with my thoughts. People who have children are in no way worse then people who don't have children. There are a metric shitton of other factors. I'm not a fan off people who refuse to use contraception or who attempt to have a small town's worth of children, but I'm also not a fan of childless jerkwads who make a point to mock, criticize, or belittle those who do. - Heather
TLDR: This post is about not judging people who don't want kids, especially considering a woman to be incomplete because she didn't take her uterus for a spin. If you've got judgements to make your own post. And back the fuck off of my Melly. She's a rockstar. - Heather
Most of my close female friends do not want children. I don't think there is anything abnormal about it. It's a choice that shouldn't be attacked by anyone. - Jenny H.
If you think you're too selfish to have kids, you are. But it's normal to be focused on yourself (at least for a while), so that's not a judgement on the person. I also don't see having kids as altruistic, I think it's inherently selfish. But again, that's normal and not a judgement. Everything is a matter of degrees and with how many things go into a decision like having kids it's impossible to judge people in groups. - Heather
Heather, you are not missing any part of your brain, and you are mostly certainly NOT a mutant. It's all about what you want to do with your body and your life. And like you said, there are often a billion different factors involved in making a decision either way. - Melly #FForever
Also, I like having childless friends because they can babysit for me while I go smoke crack. - Melly #FForever
I just spit on my computer. >.< - Heather
Thanks for sharing the VHEMT site Heather, I like it a lot. - Melly #FForever
And I totally want Josh to download the Silver Snip award when he has his vasectomy, haha! - Melly #FForever