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Sorry I still haven't been around, FF. Please accept the following story of the most hilarious thing that's happened lately as compensation.
As you may have heard, there is a bit of a kerfuffle here in lovely Madison, WI right now. Mostly ire about unions and whatnot. - Lo
My beloved gentleman friend, Superfly, is involved in the TAA, the teaching assistant union. As such, there have been many trips to the Capitol & I've been helping him organize the math department. (On a side note, the grocery co-op I work for has no official position on political matters, but we have been supplying the protesters with food, which is pretty awesome.) - Lo
Lately I've had a number of revelations about myself that were somewhat surprising. One of them came last night, when we were discussing the implications of the bill if it does pass. I told Fly, and was stunned both to hear the words & know that I meant them, "if you lose your benefits from teaching, I would marry you so you could get my benefits at the co-op." We both have insurance through a health co-op. And we live in co-ops. Is this state commie or what? - Lo
Fortunately, the sketchy probably-illegal vote the Republicans took in the Assembly was overturned, in part thanks to the TAA's raucous chanting outside the door, but still -- we were basking in the knowledge that we could get married without telling anyone and both be cool with that. Our relationship has been going even better than I expected. - Lo
A little later on in the evening, we were discussing another surprising revelation that I've had, which is that I'd like to have a tubal ligation. I've known all my life I didn't want kids, but I was still surprised that I want to go that far. Of course, it would depend a lot on whether there was any insurance coverage, because I don't want it bad enough to pay $10k or what have you. - Lo
I said I'd check with GHC about their coverage (the benefits sheet I have includes breast reduction surgery & fertility services, but is mysteriously silent on the subject of vasectomies & TLs). Fly then said, "I'll check my coverage as well. If I have more benefits for that, I would marry you so you could have it done." - Lo
Yes, that's right - HE SAID WE SHOULD GET MARRIED SO THAT WE COULD *NOT* START A FAMILY. *rimshot* - Lo
I laughed for about 20 minutes. I've never even heard of anyone doing that, which makes me want to so bad. - Lo
"Hi, Mom? Great news! I'm getting married! ... No, this actually means you won't be getting those grandchildren you wanted." - Lo
In other news, life continues to be good. The weather is improving, I'm still enjoying life as a baker, and am having awesome sex on a frequent basis. Thanks for catching up, y'all! - Lo
Lo, you might want to look into the Essure procedure. It's less invasive than a tubal ligation and may be more affordable. - Jenny
Oooh, thanks for the tip Jenny! That sounds very promising. I'm still kind of wrapping my mind around the whole idea... like, I knew I was sure, but I didn't know I was *that* sure. I am reaaaaaaaaaalllly tired of hormonal birth control. - Lo
I am a big fan of Essure. :) - holly #ravingfangirl
Damn, an endorsement! This thread just paid for itself :) Thanks Holly! - Lo
I was supposed to get it and then my body went and got pregnant again! Gah! I had my tubes tied when I was opened up during my c-section. - Jenny
you're welcome, Lo! :) - holly #ravingfangirl
Vasectomies are way less invasive too, if you're both apparently that committed to the idea and each other. Obviously that'd have to be Fly's decision, but it's something to consider. Then again, I guess you know that, since you were quoted in that article about vasectomies. - Brad Greer
Yes, well, that experience taught me that a vasectomy ensures *he* won't have babies, but I am primarily concerned with *me* not having them. - Lo
Lo - my mom hoped for years I would change my mind about children. And I have been married 17 years now. I'm not sure any kind of surgery would have made her stop asking either. And I stopped telling her I didnt want any children after a while, cause it made her always feel as if somehow she must have been a terrible mother to put me off children. Can't imagine how she'd have felt if I'd actually gotten surgery... Silly, in a way, but be watchful for a feeling like that in your mother, and be ready with a more positive spin on it. - Iphigenie
Haha. Gettin' a little action on the side? ;) - Brad Greer
You can both get fixed! - Adam Mills
Condoms and pulling out (it only has a bad rap because dudes say they will but don't) are also valid alternatives to hormonal birth control. No need to jump on the surgery bandwagon so easily :) - Brad Greer
I think he meant condoms+pulling out. - Chris Topher
Fair enough. I guess I'm just touchy because I'm used to dudes being completely unwilling to make sacrifices on their part to get their wives/girlfriends off hormonal birth control. I get that people need to be responsible for themselves, but putting all of the responsibility on the woman in a committed relationship still bugs me. - Brad Greer
I'll be blunt. There was a time when I'd assume in any serious relationship that OMG stars & unicorns & I will be with this person forever! I am not going to make that assumption when it comes to something this significant, no matter how ridiculously hilariously compatible we are. It also has something to do with anxiety relating to a decision disappearing when the options disappear. Fly would never just expect me to be entirely responsible for family planning; he's want to be involved from the start. - Lo
Joelle, while reading your comment it hit me that I wouldn't tell my mom I was going to do this. I might someday, if there were a good opportunity. I don't think she'd be all that surprised or upset, or at least she wouldn't show it. Yet another surprise. - Lo
Adam, that sounds about right. We are both that anal about getting things done for sure. - Lo