Yeah, while I can see the monstrous lurking misogyny in Snape's backstory, as a guy who was inculcated by the patriarchy and who is still in the process of being deprogrammed, I still find some parts of Snape relatable. In my headcanon, Snape isn't somehow trying to redeem himself to his quasinecrophiliac idealization of Lily, he's simply realized that he's committed unforgivable atrocities in the name of a misguided sense of sexual entitlement, that now he's totally doomed anyway, and so he's trying to do the best he can achieve with the total shambles he's made of his life. - Victor Ganata

I could go with that more if he hadn't been such an immature ass when he really needed to be more of a grownup than Harry. I kinda like that he's not a good person, or romantic really, but that it doesn't mean that he has to be all murdery or support people who are. It sets you up for the reveal about Dumbledore, and how Draco turns out. It seems more like a real set of people to me. - Jennifer Dittrich

I think that's kind of what I found real about him, in that while he had achieved a fatalistic form of enlightenment in certain parts of his life, there were some things which he was still very regressive about. - Victor Ganata