"I wish I had the answer for this, but I don't. I've had four divorces and been widowed. Each time I was cut in two, no matter whether I was the leaver or the leavee. You develop a history that is shared, and you lose some of that when the relationship ends. It was only after the last husband died that I found out who I was. It's so tempting for women to hide behind the identity of a couple, and so wrong. On the other hand, it perpetuates the race. You have found a profession in San Francisco, you're good at it, you seem to like it, so stick around. On yet another hand, you could bring your new experience back to Phoenix:-)" - Francine Hardaway