"So what’s the antidote to feeling small and valueless? Simple: Make someone else feel valued, right now. Think about how incredible you feel when somebody tells you how the appreciate you, or how you helped them – whether it’s someone you worked hard to help in a huge, life changing way or even a child who you simply encouraged consistently (possibly effecting just as big a change for their future).
Now think about who you can appreciate in that same way right now.
And don’t just think about it – tell them. Today."
- Fred Yankowski
"While we’re fast asleep, the mind is sifting through the helter-skelter of the day, trying to figure out what we need to remember and what we can afford to forget."
- Fred Yankowski
"When we confront a situation, our mind looks for a precedent among past actions without regard to whether a decision was made in emotional or unemotional circumstances. Which means we end up repeating our mistakes, even after we've cooled off. I said that Eduardo and I wondered if past emotions influence future actions but, really, we worried about it. If we were right, and recklessly poor emotional decisions guide later "rational" moments, well then we're not terribly sophisticated decision-makers, are we?"
- Fred Yankowski
"Here are practical, battle-tested ways for you to improve the efficiency of your business and deal with some of the niggles of partial self-employment. They’ll hopefully be of use whether you intend to try running it in your spare time or just want to squeeze more results out of the time you’re already spending. Many of these suggestions are specific to the contours of running a software business on the Internet, which has a lot to recommend it as far as part-time businesses go — take care before trying these willy-nilly with an unrelated industry."
- Fred Yankowski
"If you’re unhappy with some significant portion of your life, at some point you have to wake up in the morning and simply say that you’ve had enough.
That key decision often leads to some further difficult ones. It will probably lead to some personal challenges. It will require you to make some changes in your life.
On the other hand, that key decision gets the monkey off your back. You know, the thing that keeps you wondering what your life might be like if you weren’t saddled with this thing holding you back? That monkey. Get rid of him."
- Fred Yankowski
"My worry is that our online social platforms both magnify our hierarchies (by measuring our friends, followers, links, etc.) and erase the "disproportions," so that we suddenly find ourselves in the same monkey cage with a far larger number of monkeys. "
- Fred Yankowski
"A strength model of willpower proposes four important ideas:
Willpower is a mind-body response, not merely a mindset.
Using willpower depletes resources in the body.
Willpower is limited.
Willpower is trainable."
- Fred Yankowski
"First, try not to get sucked in the first place. If your tasks don’t involve the internet, don’t go online. If they don’t involve the computer at all, don’t open your laptop.
If you do need to go online or use a computer, don’t go to unnecessary sites. I am much more productive when working online if I close my Gmail tab.
If there isn’t a show on that you really like, turn off the TV.
Commit to doing one thing on your list for just 10 minutes. You know how this works. After 10 minutes, you usually want to do more.
When you feel yourself being sucked in by mindless activities, ask yourself if you spent the last hour as you intended. What did you want to do with your time, and if you didn’t do it, what can you do now?"
- Fred Yankowski
RT @stevepavlina: Which path that you're considering today will you likely look back upon 5 years from now with gratitude that you had the guts to make it so?
1 Golden rule.
2 Be yourself.
3 Remember everyone's names.
4 Very strong handshake.
5 Look people in the eye often.
6 Never leave something undone.
7 Do not seek the spotlight.
8 Listen to critcism.
9 Your social network is offline.
10 Have goals.
11 Be happy. Rejoice at ease and opportunity.
- Fred Yankowski