"Lisa, being nice is something I try to avoid doing because the moment you are nice is the moment you compromise. Let me explain. When I am interacting with someone who perhaps opposes my viewpoint, I listen carefully and ask plenty of questions to understand why they think that way. However, most people would do this and be "nice" by not asking tougher questions, rather than the "nice" questions. As I say, the moment we are nice is the moment we compromise. I don't want to compromise on sharing my values and beliefs with the world. If I am nice, I am stopping myself from being expressive and saying things as I see them rather than how social conventions expect me to see them." - Josh Chandler