Self-Compassion: The Most Important Life Skill? - http://news.yahoo.com/s...
May 18, 2011
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"With or without self-esteem interventions, most people think they are better than average on just about every trait psychologists have bothered , including self-awareness, Neff explained. And today's college students, according to a 2010 meta-analysis of past relevant research, published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, are more narcissistic than they have ever been. They may also be less resilient and more fragile psychologically, according to experts such as Hara Estroff Marano, author of "A Nation of Wimps" (Broadway, 2008). Kids who, say, grow up constantly hearing "You are so smart," may start believing "smartness" is part of what makes them lovable. And therefore, anything that does not support this picture of themselves, such as a C on a test, a negative evaluation or a job rejection, causes them to become defensive, anxious or, in some extreme cases, completely fall apart, Marano contends. Rather than continuing to put stock in building self-esteem, psychologists are increasingly finding, as Gilbert put it, "the secret to success is the ability to fail." And this is exactly where self-compassion steps in."
- Paul Buchheit
Why elevate self-compassion over compassion in general?
- Huy Zing
I think a lot of people have problems with anxiety, but self-esteem as a cure for anxiety sounds like something a narcissist came up with. This sounds much healthier, although I'm a little troubled with the overall influence of psychological fashion as evidenced by the self-esteem movement.
- Zach Baker
Today's narcissistic over-confident college grads: Meet today's job market!
- Brian Johns