Robert Klitzman, M.D.: 'Who Made Me?' The Ethical Issues That IVF Families Face - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/robert-...
"These issues are of growing importance since more children are being born using donated eggs and sperm. Of all couples, 10 percent are infertile. Currently, of all births in the U.S., 1 percent use some form of Assisted Reproductive Technology, such as IVF and/or donated gametes. In Denmark, the number has already risen to 7 percent. Eventually, in the U.S. and other Western countries, 10 percent of all births will probably involve these technologies. What exactly should children born using donated eggs and sperm be told? A six- or seven-year-old might be informed merely that, "There are many ways to have a family. A nice man helped us to have you." But many parents don't want to disclose at all, and either remain silent or overtly lie. Given the potential importance of family medical history for disease prevention and treatment, doctors may in certain cases need to override parents' decisions and tell adult offspring themselves." - Jess